MKE Week 11–What is Abundance?

Abundance is often used to describe positive qualities, such as an abundance of love. Abundance is the opposite of scarcity. An abundance of wealth is a ton of cash. An abundance of friends sounds like a good thing, but it can get overwhelming when it comes to scheduling time to hang out or buying gifts. According to Derek O’Neill, “the essential meaning of abundance is that you are solidly happy with who you are and no external event or situation whether good or bad can add or subtract from that happiness”. The Master Keys describes abundance as a natural law of the Universe.

I guess the next question is, “How would you determine abundance in your life?” After reading the article that Nicolete Stenson wrote and listening to Pastor Marshall’s sermon on the topic of abundance I was able to glean ten distinguishing qualities, which gives us a good picture.

First, embrace your emotions as a healthy barometer letting you know when you aren’t aligned with abundance. So stop thinking thoughts that are negative or not productive, critical or full of jealousy, and other thoughts that brought you to this point. Accept yourself and everyone around you exactly as they are at this moment. Abundance is seeing the good in everyone, including yourself and letting kindness & love overflow on to others.

Second, abundance is not complaining, instead it tells another story of nice things-your successes, no matter how small. Praise is the vibration that manifests abundance.

Third, abundance takes baby steps; it takes small actions each day towards changing your energy, and changing your conditioning. If you are facing the right direction, you’ll get there.

Fourth, abundance focuses on the good things in life. For example, expressing gratitude for all the blessings in your life and seeing positive aspects in people, family, and friends.

Fifth, abundance is a life of fullness-to be content, to be satisfied. Abundance concentrates on growth and the love of learning along with resilience which is essential for great accomplishments.

Sixth, abundance is having control over what you say. It is realizing the effects of your words and how it shapes your reality and others. Abundance has the mental diet mastered.

Seventh, abundance is not a self-absorbed life. It is seeing the good in all. Having abundance gives you an understanding & creates confidence in the things the individual does well and helps others develop these skills too. Abundance provides value by serving others.

Eighth, abundance is recognizing the unlimited possibilities in life. By creating an expanded awareness, it fosters the abundance mentality. It is a life of purpose.

Ninth, abundance is creating memorable and meaningful life experiences.

Tenth, abundance is hope that cannot be taken away.  Abundance is investing in heavenly things. Anthony Robbins stated in a quote, “When you are grateful, fear disappears, and abundance appears”. Dr. Wayne Dyer stated in a quote, “Abundance is not something we acquire, it is something we tune into”. Be open & ready to attract abundance into your life. Live a life of abundance, for it’s for everyone.

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MKE WEEK 10- The Importance of Affirmations

Charles Haanel wrote a very well- known affirmation, which has encouraged many people as they have had to face various crisis in their lives.  The affirmation is: “I am Whole, Perfect, Strong, Powerful, Loving, Harmonious, and Happy”.  Let’s take a look at affirmations to see what exactly they are, why & how to use affirmations, the formula for writing effective affirmations, and see if affirmations really work.  Some of these answers will be from a report on affirmations which was written by Kathryn J. Lively, PH.D.   After reading her report it inspired me to write a blog on this topic, interweaving her key points with my personal opinions about the topic.

Affirmations are statements that are designed to create self- change in the individual using them.  They affirm that a proposition is declared to be true.  They can serve as inspiration, a reminder, or serve to focus attention on goals throughout the day.  They can inspire positive thought to replace negative feelings, sadness, or depression.

People use affirmations for a variety of intentions.  In most cases affirmations are used to reprogram the subconscious mind, to get rid of old habits, to encourage you to believe certain things about yourself, and your place within your own world.   Affirmations are also used to help create the reality you want to build, a new blue print, get rid of old habits,  and reinforce new skills to manifest your desires.  What you believe about your self in a subconscious level has an impact on your positive attitude.  It promotes things running smoother, it can open doors for financial abundance, it increases productivity, and inspires a new desire for renewed health.

How do you use affirmations? In order to be effective, you must read the affirmations daily-once in the morning and the last thing at night before you go to bed.  You can use them in the middle of the day to help focus you on your daily goals when needed.  Putting your affirmations on note cards and bringing them wherever you go is a useful tool to keep you on the right track.   Also putting your affirmation cards on your bathroom mirror, computer monitor, dashboard of your car, or any other spot that you visually glance at.  You can record your affirmations on your phone & listen to them on the way to work, while being stuck in traffic or you can also program your phone to remind you to read them.

The formula for writing effective affirmations includes four steps:   Step one- effective affirmations are written in the first person, just like your DMP.   Use “I” or “I am” in your affirmation so that your affirmation turns into statements of identity.  Identity statements are powerful motivators for self- change.  Step two- Affirmations are written in the positive, no negative statements are allowed.  Step three-  Affirmations have an emotional charge.  Embellish your affirmation with feeling and emotional words.  Step four—Affirmations are written in the present state.  An Example is- “I am happy and confident” instead of putting a date that this would occur.

Lastly, do affirmations really work?  According to Napoleon Hill who wrote the classic, “Think and Grow Rich”, his evidence suggests that yes, affirmations do work.  Another recent study from Carnegie Mellon reveals that affirmations can protect against the damaging effects of stress, counteract ego-depletion, enhance our task-related performances, and make us more receptive to our mistakes.  Personally, affirmations have helped me replace negative talk, inspired my inner self and has helped me stay on track with my goals.

Affirmations are a tool to use when thoughts of anger, jealousy, fear, worry, creeps in.  It is a way to fight darkness and turn it into light.  According to Frederick Elias- “Affirm the good, and the bad will vanish”.  So try using daily affirmations and watch your new reality come to life.

MKE WEEK 9–How to know the Truth

How to know the truth is a question that people have pondered for centuries.  Let’s look at a few ideas which hopefully will clarify the question: (1) What is the definition of Truth?  (2) How does our body react to truth? (3) Why does truth require harmony with the Infinite & Omnipotent Power?

In order for us to discover how to know the truth, let’s begin with the definition of truth.  Truth is a verified or indisputable fact, proposition, principle, such as mathematical truths.  In the Master Keys it describes truth as the underlying principle in every business or social relation.  It is a condition precedent to every right action.  To know the truth, to be sure, to be confident, affords a satisfaction that isn’t comparable; it is the only solid ground in a world of doubt, conflict, and danger.

It is very interesting to realize that our body reacts to truth.  In a study by Margaret Paul, PH.D, she gives several examples of how this is possible.  For example, our heart is a good indicator of whether you are operating from truth or from lies. When truth has been expressed our heart feels soft, full, open, and expansive. Whereas when lies are told our heart is empty, heavy, tight, and constricted. Have you ever felt goose bumps or shivers, or felt the hair standing on your neck when hearing truth? This is a frequent way our body lets us know we are hearing truth.  Feelings are another barometer that comes from being in truth (happiness, peace, love, joy, bliss, delight, rapture, lightness of being).  Our feelings are here to guide us, to let us know when we are operating from truth. When you tune out your feelings you have no way of knowing the difference between lies & truth; beliefs that come from your own limited mind and the truth that comes from the spiritual aspect of life.  Also, if you go to various addictive processes like busyness, TV, alcohol, eating, etc. you’ll effectively close off your heart, cut off your feelings, which cuts off our astuteness to reason whether the comments are lies or truth.

Lastly to know the truth is to be in harmony with the Infinite and Omnipotent Power.  To know the truth is to connect yourself with a power that is irresistible, and which will sweep away every kind of discord, in harmony, doubt, or error of any kind. As you very well know that the “Truth is mighty and will prevail”.  Every action which isn’t in harmony with Truth will result in discord and will eventually lose in their over-all character and in life in general.

Truth is found by listening to your heart, feelings, and the harmony that it brings to your life.  As Walt Whitman puts it, “What ever satisfies the soul is Truth”.

 

MKE WEEK 8–How to Love Myself

Loving others seems to be easier for me than  to love myself.  In this blog I’m going to share what OG Mandino tells us as well as another author Margaret Paul, PH.D.  The insights that I am going to convey are:  the importance of cherishing yourself, protecting yourself, and the six steps of inner bonding.

Cherishing yourself is acknowledging that you were made first- class by the first -class Creator.  You are special, unique, wonderfully made, and no one on this planet is like you.  You have gifts & talents that only you can fulfill.  Loving yourself makes you more zealous for the things which enter your body, mind, soul, and heart. You cherish your body with cleanliness and moderation.  You enrich your mind with positive thoughts and erase distractions of evil, despair, or negative magnets that want to draw you down the wrong path.  You use the Law of Substitution to replace the distractions with the knowledge & wisdom of the ages.  Never can you allow your soul to become complacent and satisfied,  but rather fill it with thoughts of courage, power, self- reliance, and confidence along with mediation and prayer.  Never allow your heart to become small, bitter, revengeful, rather fill your heart with love, then share it with others and warm the earth.

Loving myself is also learning the value of protecting me.  Love is my shield to repulse the arrows of hate and the spears of anger.  It protects me from catty women who seem to get pleasure out of hurting people.  The shield of love sustains me when I’m alone. It uplifts me in moments of despair and it helps me build confidence so that I can walk unencumbered among all manners of men and women.  Loving yourself is realizing the importance of giving love. The more you give, the more love you will receive.  However, the only way in which you can give love is to fill yourself with an abundance of love-over flowing. Then you will have plenty of love to give away.

Lastly, let’s look at the six steps of inner bonding.  The first step is being willing to feel pain and take responsibility for your feelings. All feelings are an indicator of letting us know whether we’re loving  or abandoning  ourselves, or if others are being loving, or too controlling.  It’s about learning how to move toward your feelings rather than away or suppressing them.  It is focusing on you, how you are loving you, berating you, or making someone else be responsible for your feelings.  The second step is maneuvering into learning.  When looking at the inner bonding process there are only two possible intentions in any given moment: (a) to protect against pain, avoiding responsibility through various addictive habits or controlling behavior, and (b) analyzing what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain; or what may be happening between you and another person or situation.  By analyzing the entire scenario, you can move into taking love action on your behalf.  The third step is discovering your false beliefs.  This is the compassionate process of exploration-learning about your beliefs & behaviors.  Ask your inner self “What am I thinking or doing that’s causing the painful feelings?”  The fourth step is dialoging with your higher self.  The key is to be open to learning about loving yourself.  The answer may come immediately or over time.  They may come in words, images, or in dreams.  The fifth step is taking the loving action learned in step four and applying it to your pain so that over time it will heal the shame, anxiety, and depression. All of these feelings are the result of your self- abandonment.  The sixth step is evaluating your love or to see if your pain is lessened.  If your pain hasn’t improved, then go back through the steps until you discover the truth and the loving actions that bring you peace, joy, and a sense of intrinsic worth.

Loving myself is a continual process and each day gives me a new opportunity to love me more than I did the day before.  As Oscar Wilde put it so nicely- “To love oneself is the beginning of a life long romance.” An unknown author put it another way, “Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much, but is still standing.  Love yourself first and your world will be a brighter place.

MKE Week 7– Enduring Sadness

 

As O.G. Mandino says in scroll 2, “Yet I will welcome obstacles for they are my challenge.  Yet I will endure sadness for it opens my soul”.

This past Thursday, I received a call from my sister-in-law, Sandy, and my step-brother, Marc, and they shared with me that our sister, Debra, had died.  I was speechless and thought that maybe I misinterpreted their words, but sadly I hadn’t.  Debra had just had her birthday, a month earlier and had turned 57 years old.  I couldn’t believe her life had ended; she was too young, and after all I thought she would probably live for ever or out live me.

Her life began as an identical twin and she was the oldest because she was first born. Sadly, she was born with cerebral palsy and weighed a little over 4 pounds.  Her sister, Diane, out weighted her by one pound.

Debra was always full of spunk, determination, and persistence.  When Diane learned how to ride a bike, nothing doing but Debra had to learn.  No matter how many times she fell, she got back up and tried again until finally after a long period of practice she got it.  The same thing happened when Diane took up skating.  Debra had to try this out too.  She had so many bruises on her poor little legs, but it never stopped her from trying again & again. After many months of practicing she became successful and had fun skating in the patio area and then later out in the street since she lived on a cul-de-sac with hardly any traffic.

As Debra got older she had always wanted to work at Sea World and of course would not take “no” for an answer.  She applied for many types of jobs at Sea World until finally she got an interview and got her dream job.  She had to wake up earlier than normal in order for her to catch the trolley and get to Sea World.  She could travel anywhere either by bus or trolley and seemed to have no fear of anything or anyone. Debra worked at other jobs, such as a bakery shop where she learned how to make delicious cookies, cupcakes, and breakfast muffins.  She was very clever and never shared the recipes.  She also worked for Long’s Drug store for over 5 years.  She won a special reward for her faithfulness and diligence.  She also was in the newspaper for public recognition of what she had done.  She was so thrilled over this, as she finally did something that Diane hadn’t done.

She lived most of the time by herself in a couple of apartments with her stuffed animals of Snoopy, which became her family.  She loved Snoopy and would light up when anyone gave her a Snoopy or something with Snoopy on it.  She went to Grossmont College because Diane had graduated from college and so she thought she would go too, but she didn’t quite understand that you had to take a set number of courses in various subjects in order to get a degree and not just take PE classes.

She loved walking or taking a bus to Denny’s.  This was the highlight of her day and she would order a tall glass of tea along with something to eat, sit, and talk with the waitresses.

She was on a bowling team and had her own bowling ball.  She always seemed to make strikes and it seemed to tickle her soul.  She could also play pool, which was amazing to see her shoot the balls and get them in the holes.  She seemed to have so much fun.

She loved family gatherings like Thanksgiving, Christmas, and birthday celebrations. All of these times were special to her as she got to visit with family.

One of her favorite places to travel to was Disneyland.  She would catch a bus and off she went. She would go on rides, eat, walk around, enjoy the musical parade, and the great fireworks.

She was always friendly and loved to give everyone a big bear hug.

Debra was a special person, a unique sister and someone who I will truly miss. Her memories will live on forever within my heart.

MKE WEEK 6— The Three Powers of the Mind

Every thought sets brain cells in action.  In this blog let’s look at three powers of thought: (1) the power of discernment, (2) the power of attention, and (3) the power of thought.

First let’s look at the power of discernment. The power of discernment gives a clearer understanding and appreciation of facts. It also helps you if you want to learn something new the brain will cause the creation of a new neuron network to be formed which reinforces the new mental representation.  For example, the first time you tried to ride a bike, you probably failed to do it.  The reason was because the neuron network was being established.  By trying to ride the bike over & over again the neuron network got stronger, and all of a sudden you rode the bike without thinking about it.

Second, the power of attention can be more readily understood by comparing it with a magnifying glass with which the rays of sunlight are focused.  The magnifying glass possesses no particular strength as long as the glass is moving about and the rays of light are directed from one place to another.  However, let the glass be held perfectly still and let the rays be focused on one spot for any length of time, the effect will become very apparent.  The power of attention can be used to overcome obstacles that appear in your path only by acquiring the power through practice.  Practice makes perfect in this, as well as in anything else.  In order to cultivate the power of attention, for example,  take a family photograph and examine it closely at least  5 minutes; note the expression of the eyes, their clothing, the way their hair is arranged, and other details shown in the photograph. Now cover it and close your eyes, try to see it mentally.  If you can see every detail you definitely have a good power of attention.  If this is difficult then you need more practice in similar exercises until you can do it.   By being able to develop the power of attention you will finally be able to control your mental mind, your attitude, and your consciousness.

The last power that we’re going to look at is the power of thought, which is training your mind to focus your attention or concentration on any single purpose for any length of time.  By doing this you’ll discover nothing becomes impossible. An example of using the power of thought is trying to improve your self-image, breaking out of your current belief system.  You can change your self-image through the power of thought and positive affirmations.  You can change the way you look at yourself through seeking new truths, and changing your negative thoughts.  You will be able to accomplish anything you put your mind to. You have to acknowledge your tremendous power within, the power of thought.  As Thomas Jefferson once said, “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.”  When you begin to believe in yourself you also realize the power of thought.  You have conditioned yourself to act, behave, and think in a certain way.  When results start to materialize, it will reinforce new beliefs in yourself which, in turn, will produce even better results.  It becomes a positive spiral that keeps accomplishing more of the things you desire.  You change the way you’re thinking and awaken the new you inside-letting out your special uniqueness.  A person might ask, how do you apply the power of thought? The answer is by surrounding yourself with positive- supporting people, by using affirmations, and creative visualization.  By doing these, you will be inspired, and spurred on.  When at times the goal seems far away, your supportive friends can get you back on track.  The power of thought will help you believe you’re capable of anything you set your mind to.

You can do more and be more by using the three incredible powers of the mind. Norman Vincent Peale expressed it by saying, “When you expect the best, you release a magnetic force in your mind which by the law of attraction tends to bring the best to you.” Try using these three powers of the mind and watch the harmonious relationship with the universe be created and your way will be made manifested.

MKE WEEK 5– What Makes Up a Choice?

 

Life is how we interpret the world and with it comes the ability to make choices. In this blog the discussion will be around:  (a) the definition of choice so that everyone is clear on the meaning, (b) whether the number of choices have an effect on the process, and (c) how do you make choices?

According to Wikipedia a choice involves decision making. It can include judging the merits of multiple options, and selecting one or more of them.

Research has focused on how individual behavior differs when the number of choices to choose from is low versus when it high.  What was discovered when there is low number of choices were available, it seemed easier to make an acceptable choice over when more choices were available.  Some evidence show  that while a greater number of choices has the potential of improving a person’s welfare, sometimes there are too many choices or choice overload.  This leads to an escalation of expectation.  Also, with too many choices available people may come to believe they are to blame for an unacceptable result, because with so many choices, they should have been able to pick the best one.  If they have one choice available and it ends up being disappointing, the world can be held accountable.  When there are many options to choose and the one that is chosen turns out to be disappointing, the individual is responsible.

Now let’s look at how choices are made.  There are six suggestions on how choices can be made, but of course you have the final say.  The first suggestion is to make a choice by your gut feeling.  Listen to your inner feelings and decide accordingly. Second is to sleep on it, but just one night—allowing your subconscious to massage the choice.  Third is to get into a stress free state and mediate on it. Fourth is to talk the choice over with a select few and mastermind about it.  Fifth is to consider the long term consequences of your choice. Will this choice affect others as well as yourself?  Sixth is to analyze the four step cycle of making a choice.   This four step cycle includes the following steps: Step one-  Make a choice. Respect yourself and the choice you’ve made.  You have to take responsibility for the outcome.  Check out your feelings about the choice.  Does it expand you or contract you? If you feel the action or choice makes you feel heavy, weighted down, or uneasy-maybe the choice is not right for you.  However, if you feel light, at peace, and calm about the choice then it will be right for you.  Step two is to focus or concentrate on your choice.  Ask yourself, “Why am I here, what is my purpose, and how can I fulfill it?”  Feel your body & your energy.  Feel your breath as you breathe in & out.  Is your breathing stagnant or blocked in anyway? Step three is to put your choice into action. Express yourself in movement, dance, drama, or verbally which could include singing and talking.  Encourage yourself by not judging yourself but instead praise yourself three times a day.  Next say, “I’m doing well” and end it with a big smile.  Last of all for example,  envision, yourself losing the weight you want to lose. Imagine how your health would be at a lower weight.  Imagine the smaller size of pants that you will wear, and all the extra energy you will have.  Don’t limit yourself.  Often our thinking process puts conditions on situations.  Our thoughts have caps of limitations.  Erase these limitations by focusing on your uniqueness.  Step four is to repeat steps one through three as needed.

No one else can express ourselves to others like we can.  Each of us has a special value to give to the world. We might have layers of negativeness that we have to break through, or get over our blockage of not hearing our heart.  Giving our love & our special talents to the world is our essence. As J.K. Rowling said,” It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”   Choices pave the way to who you are so make them wisely.