Why does it seem so easy for us to worry over things in our life? Let’s look at four ideas that will help clear up our thinking on worrying. First, let’s define the actual term so that we are all on the same page. Second, let’s look at the purpose of why we often worry. Third, let’s focus on the harm that worrying can cause us, and fourth how to stop worrying.
Worry means to allow anxiety or a potential problem to interfere with someone’s comfort or peace of mind. It also can be to vex or irritate by continued repetition of interference. It is to show fear, concern, and unhappiness via negative thoughts.
Second, why do we often worry? Does worry have a purpose of any sort? Everyone has worried about something and this feeling is a normal human condition. It is what we feel in response to ambiguity. When you don’t know what is going on, you allow fear to creep in, and you are uneasy about what may happen next. Worry is an outcome of many factors such as: neurotransmitter function in areas of the brain connected to anxiety, the impact of stress, and trauma. Worry is a maladaptive attempt to get rid of anxiety.
Third, how does worrying affect you? Sometimes our subconscious makes us believe that the more we worry about a situation, the more we can prevent bad things from happening. However, worrying can affect the body in ways that might surprise you. When you worry excessively it can increase anxiety and can cause you to be physically sick. It can also give the individual a sense of impending doom or unrealistic fears which only increases their worries. They also begin seeing anything or anyone as a potential threat. They seek relief in harmful ways such as: smoking, drinking, overeating, or taking drugs. Worrying can affect your sleeping, relationships, and your productivity at work or home. Worrying can trigger a host of health problems such as: difficulty swallowing, dizziness, dry mouth, fast heartbeat, fatigue, headaches, muscle tension, nausea, rapid breathing, sweating, trembling, twitching, digestive disorder, premature coronary artery disease, depression, and even suicidal thoughts.
Now let’s look at some techniques to use to stop the habit of worrying. First, ask yourself if the problem you are worrying about is a real problem or is it necessary for you to worry about it? Some people feel that worrying helps them to be more careful. Second, make a list of your worries; identify what you are worried about and analyze whether your worry is productive or unproductive. A productive worry is one that you can do something about right now. For example, if you are flying to Switzerland- your worry might be what plane to select and where you will be staying once you arrive. This is a productive worry as you can go on-line and book a reservation for a flight and a hotel. An unproductive worry is one which you can’t do anything about. For example,worrying about a blood test. Three, if the worry is a problem then make a plan to handle it. Plans involve specific steps to implement, such as to identify a goal and select a few ways to achieve the goal. Remember to stick to the plan, complete the steps, and evaluate what you’ve done. If you force yourself to do the very things that make you uncomfortable, you will rely less on worry as a coping strategy. Four, worried people have a sense of urgency. They think they need an answer now, otherwise something bad will happen. Instead of thinking like that say,” Stop”, swap the negative thoughts with pleasant or productive thoughts. For example ask yourself, “What can I do in the present moment to make my life more pleasant?” Persistence and consistency are both necessary to turn off the worry. Five, remember that it’s never as bad as you think it will be. Worriers are actually good at handling real problems once they have some new tools in their tool belt. Also as OG Mandino says in scroll 7,“this too shall pass”. Lastly, “talk therapy” can help worriers by getting to the root of their issues.
Hopefully by reading this blog you will have gained some insights about why worrying is not a beneficial option to deal with the problems in life. Worrying is a superficial way of dealing with deep insecurities which will only go away when you deal with its roots. As Leo F. Buscaglia helps to conclude this blog by his quote on worry, “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy”. Wiz Khalifa gives us this visualization: “worrying is stupid, it’s like walking around with an umbrella waiting for it to rain”. Lastly, a quote from Author S. Roche, “Worry is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.” Worry is your old habit, now chose a new one.