As we look at the world around us and see all the chaos, destruction, and heartache we can’t help but wonder where is the “Harmony”?
Harmony begins with ourselves. It means the ability to control our thoughts, and determine for ourselves how any experience is to affect us. It is realizing that I am my own foundation. I am my own pillar. I am my own strength, and power. I can choose to build harmony or trample over it with my muddy boots.
In my readings recently I came across “Eight steps that you can’t forget if you want to live in Harmony with yourself.” I felt the author was right on even though the name wasn’t given. The first step the article mentioned was to remind yourself that you are starting fresh. You might have to repeat this concept several times, mediate on it- visualize what it looks like to start a fresh- to start over-to realize a new beginning. Allow yourself a new beginning each day.
The second step is to breathe life into your body only with love. Don’t take in anger, self judgement, criticism, or what you desire next. Just take in pure love. It doesn’t mean you are throwing discipline and good sense out the window. It just means you are covering it in love, not tension and stress whenever you breathe in deeply.
The third step is the importance of deciding your own self-worth before others do. Decide today you are worth your weight in gold, diamonds, or your favorite rare jewel and watch how nobody can dispute that once you’ve established your own worth. Remember insecurities haven’t a chance against a decisively positive mind.
The fourth step is to accept your loved ones just as they are. Our loved ones are who they are, and perhaps they are even better than we give them credit for. So stop trying to change them; change yourself only and accept them as they are.
The Fifth step is to not allow anyone to make you feel small, guilty, ashamed, or insecure. No one has permission to make you feel anything unless you allow it. Don’t allow people to be around you who makes you feel like rubbish. Choose wisely on who you associate with.
The sixth step is to expand your heart & mind with books and education: constant learning. Learning happens on your time and on your watch, not necessarily at school or work. When you are learning your mind will stay young, active, and sharp. Read books & educate yourself.
The seventh step was to end your pursuit of accumulation of stuff and replace it with the collection of experience. The path to minimalism is paved with true peace & harmony. It is beautiful and one that everyone can travel. It is the joy of seeing & believing that less is more. We have all we need when we have harmony.
Harold Kushner expresses this thought quite well in this quote: “Our souls are not hungry for fame, comfort, wealth, or power. Our souls are hungry for meaning, for the sense that we have figured out how to live so that our lives matter.”
The last thing in the article showed the importance of giving yourself permission to be human, to be who you are just as you are. Don’t be so hard on yourself. When we are hard on ourselves it doesn’t get us where we want to go, but only crushes our spirit. Allow yourself time to heal physically and emotionally. Take time to build your confidence once again.
Once these steps have been accomplished Harmony will bloom again within your inner self and be reflected in the world by harmonious conditions, agreeable surroundings and the disappearance of chaos .