Have you ever had so many thoughts pounding in your mind that you felt an inner chaos?. In this blog I’m going to look at this from three points: (1) the source of your thoughts, (2) your personal choice, and (3) the possible solutions. The source of your thoughts could be part of your journey of discovering yourself. What do you truly want out of your life? What are you passionate about? What are your dreams, and desires? These questions don’t have an easy answer and seem to pop in your brain periodically as you are experiencing the various opportunities in life. The answers seem to evolve through acknowledging your desires, watching respectable people, being in nature, and gaining more enlightenment in the areas that interest you. Answers can also come by doing something that you need to achieve with all the talents, gifts, that you were born with, not listening to others, parents, or friends trying to persuade you to be someone you’re not. Finding you and appreciating who you are has a calming affect in your inner turmoil. Maybe the fullness of thoughts stem, too, from all the things you feel you need to do by a certain time period. You have so much to do in a small amount of time, which causes your thoughts to work over time. You try to figure out how all the pieces of thought can fit together so that everything can get done. In your confusion you don’t seem to know what to do first and your focus is scattered.
Second, you have a choice of remaining in inner chaos or deciding to analyze your thoughts in small increments to see if there is a way out of this disorientation or bewilderment. Your thoughts become a road map that can help you find the possible solutions.
Third, the problem is not the number of thoughts, but the emotional attachment to the thoughts. For example, my daughter is getting married in two weeks. My thoughts are on the wedding, on me and how I will look that day, my responsibilities at my part time job, “can I do it in a proficient manner” and “will everything turn out beautiful?” Another example is your eyes and how they are trained to focus on singular objects, yet they are constantly being bombarded with thousands of stimuli. You don’t seem to be overwhelmed; you’ve learned to give preference to certain things and not others. By understanding this it helps us to move on to possible solutions to our inner chaos. According to Joanna Kleinman, a social worker, there are two important questions to ask yourself daily: (1)What do I need to let go of right now to be calm? Write down your responses that come to your mind in a journal. (2) What do I have to be grateful for? Write these responses down in the same journal. By answering these two questions you will have the power to change your whole life. Next, it is important to take control of your thoughts and not allow your thoughts to go where ever they want to go. Notice your physical responses to chaotic thoughts. It affects your nervous system and the emotional feelings in your body. Choose to let go of the thoughts that you fixate on and don’t let them become your identity. For example, you focus on past mistakes in hopes of preventing the same mistakes again. You worry about the future because by worrying about it, it will somehow let you control its outcome. To create a sense of inner peace and calmness daily, let go of past regrets and future worries. Also, doing mediation and yoga will help relieve the chaos in your mind.
As Bryant McGill said it quite nicely,“Your calm mind is the ultimate weapon against your challenges. So, relax!” Chose to relieve your thoughts of chaos; substitute your thoughts with calmness and peace.