Achieving your dreams takes courage, persistence, determination and commitment. But, even when you possess these virtues there still seems to be roadblocks in your aspirations. In this blog let’s look at the roadblocks that can interfere with your dreams along with some solutions to overcome the blockage.
Tanuja Ramchal (a transformer coach, helping individuals achieve personal freedom) identified five indicators that cause us to talk ourselves out of pursuing our dreams. The first indicator is when you compare yourself to others. Looking around to see if someone already is doing what you want to do. By comparing yourself to where they are and wondering how you can compete with them, you begin to doubt your dreams and fear seems to creep in. Then your self-talk kicks in and reminds you that you’re not good enough or worthy of this new adventure. The second indicator is perfectionism. Do you feel you have to have it all figured out and your blueprint perfect before you take a risk? This allows time to fly by. You become bored, stagnant, and experience no growth which in turn reinforces overthinking and anxiety. If perfectionism is your only standard, then you have no standard and you’re living in a Utopia. The third indicator is caring about what others think. Since childhood, do you find the need of approval and avoiding rejection a necessity in order for you to move forward? By tying your self-worth to what other people think just sets you up for disappointment and forgoing what matters most to you, which is doing things you believe that make you happy. When you let go of this need to please others, you’re free to be yourself and not pretend to be someone else. The fourth indicator is the fear of failure. It is your comfort zone of protection. It keeps you out of danger and safe from taking a risk or associating with none supportive people. The problem with fear is that it puts negative thoughts in your head, brings up your insecurities and sabotages your dreams in hopes to stop this foolishness. The fifth indicator is that our society craves immediate gratification, but visions takes time to develop and formulate into a successful blueprint. Focusing on the entire movie picture of your dreams can feel immobilizing and can cause you to give up even before you begin. How will you gain the confidence and the financial support to succeed? The answer to this question is by accomplishing small goals one step at a time and never giving up.
Now let’s look at some solutions to tear down the roadblocks. Instead of comparing yourself to others, recognize that no one has your exact style, experience and knowledge which has led you to the path you’re on. Since the beginning of time never has there been another with your mind, heart, eyes, ears, hands, hair or mouth or can duplicate your brush strokes or handwriting. You are nature’s greatest miracle. There’s no one in the world who can be you better than you. Next, have a clear vision and understand what your desires and dreams truly are and what’s meaningful to you. Trying to be like someone else only makes you feel like a copy of a copy and not your true authentic self. Focus on developing yourself. You’re a work in progress. Compare yourself to a previous version of you and celebrate all the progress. When you think your dreams and desires need to be perfect, reflect on the thought that most decisions oscillate-vary between differing beliefs or opinions. You need to take some steps and adjust as needed to get to the results you want. When you find yourself caring about what others think, substitute that thought with the question, “What’s more important to you than the approval of other people?” You have to decide what matters most to you. Do your dreams mean more to you or other people’s opinions? Once your decision has been made then act on it. When you sense fear creeping in don’t take fear at face value. Examine the facts objectively. Is the worse case scenario really a possibility? If you succeed how does that affect your life? See failures as lessons that will only allow you to get better or as great opportunities in disguise. When you feel you’re getting impatient, focus on the next small step that will move you closer to your dream. Remember it’s the process that gets you to achieve your goal and the reward is in the journey. Recognize that confidence is built only by doing the work, learning from your mistakes and being persistent.
Achieving your dreams takes courage, determination, commitment and hard work. It’s a process and a journey that allows you to grow, accept challenges and discover the future you. As Henry David Thoreu once said, “What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” So, use the solutions, tear down the roadblocks and achieve your dreams. Remember, you’ve got this.