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MKE 2018 Lesson 7 What Do You Learn From Failure?

Often we only look at failure as a negative part of our lives, but let’s flip the coin and see what positive things one can gain from failure.

First, failure builds character. If you look at the positive side of it, the best advantage you earn from failure is the strength you gain from it. If everything in life were perfect and every opportunity a success what type of person would you be? Failure teaches us more about ourselves and builds character better than any success ever could. It makes us see our inner being for what it is and areas where change is needed.

Second, failure creates opportunity. How many times in your work life have you failed at something and shortly after this experience you discovered another opportunity that is usually more suited to your talents, and perhaps even the salary was better. Thus, failure had some bitterness, but also had sweetness so that eventually everything ended up better.

Third, failure is a great teacher in disguise. It shows you your strengths and weaknesses which inspires you to adjust your attitude along with realizing the change that needs to occur in your life. It teaches you humbleness and the importance of getting off your ego trip.

Fourth, failure initiates courage. Most people are scared of failure and would rather stay in their comfort zone than to take a risk and go down an uncertain path. After all, you have responsibilities and people relying upon you. No matter what the failure is you need to adapt yourself to the catastrophe to get through it.

Fifth, failure teaches perseverance. When experiencing failure it is extremely easy to just give up. Why should I continue? It takes determination, boldness, fortitude, and braveness to keep driving forward. After all, a quitter never wins but a winner never quits.

Sixth, failure produces creativity. If something doesn’t work out you need to tap into your supply of innovative talent to create something exclusive. Failure inspire the passion to continue to look for new ideas.

Seventh, failure depends upon motivation. The most successful people are the ones that continue to try and never give up. As Winston Churchill once said, “Success is your ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.” You need to find your motivation and incentive to keep you going toward your goal.

Eighth, failure is acceptable. You have to acknowledge and give yourself permission to accept failure. Everyone fails at something, but lack of effort is not good enough. You need to continue to try using all possible options.

Ninth, failure encourages exploration. When you fail at something you begin to explore other alternatives, look at your interests, your dreams, desires, and purpose in life. As you discover new pathways to travel, new opportunities seem to open up, and a new journey has begun.

Tenth, failure teaches resilience. Failure has a way of making you a better person. Failure teaches and strengthens resilience. Through displeasure, distress, hardship, and uncertainty, you become better at handling any of life’s challenges. Resilience is an essential tool to help anyone become a successful individual. There is no better teacher of resilience than failure.

As Henry Ford once put it nicely, “ Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again this time more intelligently” Napoleon Hill put it in another way, “Failure is nature’s plan to prepare you for great responsibilities.”

Hopefully, you now see how important failure is to becoming successful and how it is a useful implement in building character, courage, perseverance, motivation, creativity, exploration, and resilience. So accept your failure and use it to benefit your life.

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MKE 2018-2019 LESSON 6 THE BENEFITS OF EXPRESSING “NO OPINIONS”

Often when I’m given a task to do I focus on the task, or the opportunity that it will give me in disguise. In this blog let’s look at the benefits you can have by expressing “No Opinions”.

First let’s look at what happens when your opinion is refrained from being expressed on a topic that is thrown out by a small group. Since you don’t give an opinion, but others can, the topic is debated, tested, and discussed in depth by the group. The topic becomes stronger because everyone buys into it and it becomes a group decision not your opinion.

Second, it gives the opinion a chance to develop into a meaningful discussion where input can be presented on a level playing field at the right time.

Third, by not stating your opinion, it gives others a chance to state the purpose, the outcome of the discussion, and what they can expect from the session.

Fourth, by not giving your opinion you can begin to understand other people’s point of view.

Fifth, by having no opinion it helps develop listening skills and makes others feel important because you are taking the time to listen. By focusing on what a person is saying you can learn when someone is going off on a tangent and you are more apt to keep an open mind.

Sixth, by not giving an opinion you’ve acknowledged that all opinions are attachments to things that interest you. Instead of stating your opinion on a topic for example, you can say something like this—I enjoyed watching the World Series what do you think about the games?

Lastly, by not stating your opinion you develop your skills in observing not only others, but your world around you. Learning to shut off opinions both verbally and mentally, you move away from your associative memory to the frontal lobe of your brain. You become less stressed and not so egotistic. So, get rid of expressing your opinions and celebrate no longer being the noise.

MKE 2018 Lesson 5 What Do You Get To Do?

Have you ever thought about what do you get to do? Often, we complain about the various responsibilities that we are stuck with. This blog hopefully gives you a chance to contemplate over the things you do in a different perspective.

First, what do I get to do? Since I am now retired my days vary according to what I chose to do. It may begin by taking a walk through eight & half acres of trees observing all the wonders of the property such as; deer, turkeys, blue jays, ducks, the squirrels burying peanuts for the winter, the beauty of a butterfly, and the diligence of a hummingbird. Each has something special to teach me on my walk.

The second thing I get to do is to be a guide for the MKE class. This task is definitely enriching. It allows me to meet people throughout the world and to manifest my gift of helping others on their journey. Being available to help them in their DMP, Press Release, Blogs, or Mastermind with them on various discoveries on the webinars is truly a joy and brings oxygen to my soul. It is a honor to work with my members and other guides. I’ve learned so much about people through their experience. I’m blown away with their genuineness, openness to share their challenges, their successes, their joys, and even their sorrows. They have given me gems that have energized, exhilarated, and put me on cloud nine. I’ve appreciated so much what they have patiently given me.

The third thing I get to do is to be a wife and a mother. Being a wife has been an experience that no words can describe. I was blessed with a wonderful, caring, creative, and supportive husband who loves me unconditionally through the years, which this coming December is 43 years. He’s a great cook too, which has been really helpful in making dinners. Being a mother was something I became as soon as I said, “I do” in the wedding vows. My husband had two boys (4 & 6 yrs old) and together we raise them along with their half sister and two children of our own. Giving us a grand total of 3 boys and 2 girls. Being a mother is a privilege and an honor, but with many challenges and catastrophes that eventually turned tears into moments of joy, successes, and happiness. I have learned so much from being a mother and a wife.

Lastly, what do I get to do? I get to materialize my personal pivotal needs of helping others & leaving a legacy. I thoroughly enjoy helping others by encouraging them through sending them birthday cards, get well cards, or inspirational cards. I can visualize their smile along with their feelings that someone cared and is showing them love. I love playing games at the Prairie house-which is a facility for people who need assistance in their everyday life. The old timers are quite game players. They of course have to win!
The saying, “the more you give, the more you get” is truly evident when helping people. Helping people has a way of activating the fire of service and stirring-up your inner world of joy.
Legacy is leaving something tangible behind. I plan to do just that by writing a book called, “Intuitive Solutions” which is a math book. The book deals with everything you need to know on basic arithmetic through Algebra. The book breaks down concepts step by step in simple terms so that anyone can grasp the idea. Each concept not only has steps explaining the process but examples & cartoons to illustrate the objective.

Looking at things in the light of what do I get to do puts a new spin of energy and excitement to the opportunity that life gives you each day. As Debasish Mridha (MD) puts it visually: “Open all your windows, Open your heart and mind, Open all your senses, now listen to the songs of the ocean, the whispering of the leaves, the chirping of the seagulls and feel the touch of the ocean breeze. Feel the joy of life.”  So take advantage of life by looking at things in the light of “What Do I Get to Do”.

MKE 2018 Lesson 4–Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Whether we realize it or not our actions say more about us than words do. In this blog we’re going to look at ways we communicate through our actions: (a) What we show people without saying anything, (b) How to develop our actions, and (c) How to ignite the power within us.

I read an article by Nicolas Cole, which illustrated how people can show their character without having to say anything. Here are a few points that he emphasized. First, the importance of showing up on time. If you’re late, you are disrespectful, and it doesn’t matter the circumstance. It’s always better to be the one on time. Second, dressing appropriately. It is important to do due diligence to figure out what would be appropriate to wear. Take the time to understand where you’re going and what the expectation is. Third, remembering the little things. As William Morris stated, “The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” If you can recall the small stuff, people will think fondly of you. Fourth, holding the door open for people. Such a small act shows your willingness to put others before yourself. Fifth, the art on your walls. Your art shows others what motivates you, what interests you, and what you believe is worth looking at on a daily basis. Sixth, your shoes. Your style of shoes says a lot about you as a person. Your shoes represent your personality. It isn’t about buying what’s most expensive or trendy. Seventh, when you take notes. Notes help you remember the key points or information. Why risk forgetting your boss’s coffee request? Or why risk losing your business partner’s ideas from the meeting? Eighth, spending money wisely. How you spend your money is a clear reflection of your value as a person: who you spend it on, where, and when. Ninth, how you invest your time. Do you spend your time working on yourself or do you squander it on things that don’t truly matter? Tenth, your circle of friends. “You are the reflection of the five people you spend the most time with.” Who we associate with speaks volumes about our outlook on life, our beliefs, our goals, and what we find most important in life.

Next, how do we develop our actions? This process is done by cultivating our thoughts. Filtering them from negative garbage into uplifting, positive, and encouraging reflections. Thought is energy and energy is the power which produces productive actions. You need to be interested only in cause and by doing so, it helps secure health, harmony, abundance, and whatever else may be necessary for your welfare & happiness.

Lastly, how can you ignite the power within you by recognizing the power to think constructively and not dwelling on selfish purposes? You need to acknowledge that the germ of defeat is in every selfish thought. Every action must benefit every person who is in any way connected with the action. The welfare of each individual depends upon recognizing the interest of the whole. In order to get the power you desire, you must give it; you must be in service to others. The advantage of accepting this principle is that you don’t wear yourself out, you can eliminate vagrant thoughts and you can readily concentrate on any subject. You also don’t waste time or money on any action which can be of no possible benefit to you or others. In order to strengthen your will or action, apply this affirmation: “I can be what I will to be.” Repeat this throughout the day and watch how you ignite the power within you in the exact proportion to the effort you expend. Your purpose for the action must be constructive & in harmony with the creative principle of the Universe.

Nicholas Spark’s quote concludes this blog very concisely, “You’re going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it’s always their actions you should judge them by. It’s actions, not words, that matter.” So let your words be in harmony with your actions because your actions are the key to you.

MKE 2018 Lesson 3 When Your Mind is Full of Thoughts, What Do You Do to Relieve This Chaos?

Have you ever had so many thoughts pounding in your mind that you felt an inner chaos?. In this blog I’m going to look at this from three points: (1) the source of your thoughts, (2) your personal choice, and (3) the possible solutions. The source of your thoughts could be part of your journey of discovering yourself. What do you truly want out of your life? What are you passionate about? What are your dreams, and desires? These questions don’t have an easy answer and seem to pop in your brain periodically as you are experiencing the various opportunities in life. The answers seem to evolve through acknowledging your desires, watching respectable people, being in nature, and gaining more enlightenment in the areas that interest you. Answers can also come by doing something that you need to achieve with all the talents, gifts, that you were born with, not listening to others, parents, or friends trying to persuade you to be someone you’re not. Finding you and appreciating who you are has a calming affect in your inner turmoil. Maybe the fullness of thoughts stem, too, from all the things you feel you need to do by a certain time period. You have so much to do in a small amount of time, which causes your thoughts to work over time. You try to figure out how all the pieces of thought can fit together so that everything can get done. In your confusion you don’t seem to know what to do first and your focus is scattered.

Second, you have a choice of remaining in inner chaos or deciding to analyze your thoughts in small increments to see if there is a way out of this disorientation or bewilderment. Your thoughts become a road map that can help you find the possible solutions.

Third, the problem is not the number of thoughts, but the emotional attachment to the thoughts. For example, my daughter is getting married in two weeks. My thoughts are on the wedding, on me and how I will look that day, my responsibilities at my part time job, “can I do it in a proficient manner” and “will everything turn out beautiful?” Another example is your eyes and how they are trained to focus on singular objects, yet they are constantly being bombarded with thousands of stimuli. You don’t seem to be overwhelmed; you’ve learned to give preference to certain things and not others. By understanding this it helps us to move on to possible solutions to our inner chaos. According to Joanna Kleinman, a social worker, there are two important questions to ask yourself daily: (1)What do I need to let go of right now to be calm? Write down your responses that come to your mind in a journal. (2) What do I have to be grateful for? Write these responses down in the same journal. By answering these two questions you will have the power to change your whole life. Next, it is important to take control of your thoughts and not allow your thoughts to go where ever they want to go. Notice your physical responses to chaotic thoughts. It affects your nervous system and the emotional feelings in your body. Choose to let go of the thoughts that you fixate on and don’t let them become your identity. For example, you focus on past mistakes in hopes of preventing the same mistakes again. You worry about the future because by worrying about it, it will somehow let you control its outcome. To create a sense of inner peace and calmness daily, let go of past regrets and future worries. Also, doing mediation and yoga will help relieve the chaos in your mind.

As Bryant McGill said it quite nicely,“Your calm mind is the ultimate weapon against your challenges. So, relax!” Chose to relieve your thoughts of chaos; substitute your thoughts with calmness and peace.

MKE 2018-Lesson 2 Why the “MKE Sit” is an Important Process?

Just like any process you have to have a beginning, and then see the importance of it in order to continue.  In this blog this is exactly what we are going to cover.  Let’s begin at the beginning.   First it is important that when you are doing a “MKE sit”, or mediating, to find a place which is quiet, serene, and enjoyable.  It can’t be too comfortable, such as your bed, otherwise, you will end up taking a power nap instead of doing a “MKE sit”.  Select a place where you can be undisturbed without your cell phone, music,  IPad, etc.  You need to sit erect comfortably; let your thoughts roam where they will but be perfectly still for fifteen minutes to half an hour.  If a fly lands on you, you can’t move or if you have an itch you just have to ignore it, otherwise, if you scratch or shoo the fly away you have to start all over again.  This first week is teaching you to secure full control of your physical being.  It is absolutely essential to secure complete control of your body before you are ready to progress. The second week you will begin to control your thoughts.  Now be perfectly still as before, in the same location, but now inhibit all thought.  This will give you control over all thoughts of care, worry, and fear. It will enable you to entertain only the kind of thoughts you desire. Continue this exercise until you gain complete mastery.  The next week you will not only be perfectly still, inhibit all thought but you will add to this relaxing.  You will need to let your muscles take their normal condition; this will remove all pressure from the nerves and eliminate that tension which so frequently produces physical exhaustion.  Physical relaxation is a voluntary exercise of the will and it will be of great value, as it enables the blood to circulate freely to and from the brain and the rest of the body.  This “MKE sit” process continues in like manner adding a new skill to focus on along with continuing what you’ve previously been taught until you can mediate on more difficult issues that surround your life.

Next we are going to look at the importance of the “MKE sit” or mediation so that you can justify in your mind the importance of doing it other than, it being a requirement for the MKE class.

By doing the “MKE sit” you will discover how it reduces stress.  It helps to calm your emotions when you are upset over something in your life and it relaxes your body.  It shifts your stressful thoughts  into peaceful alternatives.  Your “sit” helps you clarify the  decisions in your life. The “MKE sit” also improves your concentration.  It helps your mind to focus, center, and control your thoughts.  You become aware of the difference between simply thinking and directing your thoughts consciously, systematically, constructively on important issues. The cool thing about being able to do this is that your mind comes in harmony with the universal mind, which is governed by natural law or the Law of Attraction, better known as love.  Lastly the “MKE sit” encourages other areas of your life to get in harmony, such as acquiring a healthy life style.  You seem to be drawn to eating healthier, feeding your inner soul with what truly makes you feel better.  You even exercise more to tone up the body that you were given, which in turn improves the real you.

Now that you know the how & why of the Sit, the choice is still up to you as to whether you will be faithful doing it.    The more you practice doing it the more you can make it a habit.   I would like to end this blog with Gangaji quote:

“Be still and let your life be lived by the purpose you were made for.  Be still and receive the inherent truth of your heart”.

 

MKE 2018 LESSON 1–Getting Back In the Saddle & Experience the Nuggets of Scroll 1

Well, summer is over and it’s time for me to focus on a routine that works and keeps me in check with myself and allows change to flow through me. The great thing about the MKE class is that it does all of that and more. This week we had to get back in the saddle and start reading Scroll 1. It is amazing all the neat nuggets found in that chapter. It first reminds us that through the scrolls & the Master Keys we have the tools to go through perilous waters to shores which only yesterday seemed but a dream. Failure no longer has to be my payment for struggle. Failure, like pain is alien to me just as long as I reject it and prepare for wisdom which shall guide me out of the shadows into the sunlight of success and happiness.

The next important nugget is to practice the art of patience. Our example of patience is nature and how it never acts in haste. For instance, look at how long it takes for a seedling to produce an apple—approximately 5 years.

The third nugget is realizing the difference between those who have failed and those who have succeeded. The difference lies in the difference of their habits. As OG Mandino says, “Good habits are the key to all success. Bad habits are the unlocked door to failure.” Our bad habits must be destroyed so that the seeds of good habits can be planted and produce a crop of success. According to Nature’s law only a habit can subdue another habit. This process takes discipline and determination to get rid of the bad habits. The more you practice the good habits the more the actions become easier and a pleasure to perform it. By reading the scrolls, one scroll per month you shall discover how they have a remarkable ability to clean out your mind of all its garbage and fill the space with creative thoughts, wisdom, and hidden secrets. You begin to see the change evolving. You begin to have more vitality, vigor, enthusiasm and feel happier than you have ever experienced before.

You must be committed to reading the scrolls, doing the exercises in the MKE class, and not allow anything to obstruct your new life’s growth. The change that you experience is a process that must keep going. As Carol Burnett said once, “Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” So jump back in the saddle and experience the change found in the great tools of the MKE and the OG Mandino’s Scrolls. You definitely can’t go wrong.